The Holidays can be a time when we are really hard on ourselves. The stress of travel, family, an over-booked social calendar and a plethora of expectations un-met can send us to indulging in things that make us feel good initially, but not-so-great post facto. For me, this pattern has looked like over-eating and then self-punishment in the form of NOT loving my body. One of my dear friends, Kimber Simpkins wrote a whole book about it not too long ago.
Emotional eating was one way I would, and still sometimes do, suppress or soothe negative emotions, such as stress, anger, fear, boredom, sadness and loneliness. The eating leads the emergence of the inner self-critic and inner mean-girl.
I’m sharing this with you because I know you know what I’m talking about. Statistics show that something like 95% of American women don’t like their body. You are probably one of us. And its not just women. I was recently at a retreat and spoke to a (gorgeous, btw) man about how much he compared himself to other more “ripped” dudes. All I could think was, “OMG you are so hot. How are you not seeing this?” But I do the same thing to myself all the time. It reminded me of this moment when I lived in Spain. My boyfriend was a leading male model. I was 22, 5’9 and 128 pounds. And I freaking hated my body so much. In other words, at the time in my life when I was what the world considered “most beautiful” was the time when I was the most miserable. Why? Because when you worship external beauty, you never feel good enough.
It’s time to reclaim our real beauty. Our God-Body.
This year, with the help of my sis, we decided to ask the self-critic and mean-girl to chill out. This meditation really helped, so we wanted to share.
It’s simple. Hand on heart. Thank you, body. Im sorry, sweet body.
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